July 19, 2021
How long must you endure the suffering before you decide enough is enough?
For me in my marriage, it was over 15 years. It didn't NEED to take that long, but I guess I just had an incredibly high tolerance for inner pain and suffering, until I finally had enough... and decided to take full responsibility for my marriage being exactly the way I want it to be.
And low and behold, when I became the person I always wanted to be in the relationship, everything changed!
The questions for you to grapple with...
🤔 How long do YOU want to suffer?
😠😡🤬 What's been niggling at you, bothering, annoying, and perhaps even making you angry or resentful - and causing your inner suffering... and how long do you want to stay stuck there?
July 17, 2021
Information isn't the problem. Knowledge isn't either. The answer isn't in reading another book, or learning another system.
When it comes to habit formation, ACTION is where it's at. What are you doing each day to move closer to being the person you've always wanted to be? Are you showing up?
The question is, what works FOR YOU? What's going to get you to the fourth phase of mastery - unconscious competence?
For me, the Whole Life Challenge is one of the things I use to keep myself on track. In spite of the fact that I've been the Challenge now for over 8 years, there are still habits that I have to bring to the forefront of my brain and remain conscious of and accountable for, or they will drop out of existence. That's how I know that these things are still in the realm of the third phase of mastery - conscious competence.
The WLC does something else for me... it helps me remember the other things, the things that are not part of the Challenge, habits that I want more of (or less of) that I want to keep in my conscious awareness in order to have more of what I want in my life.
🟢 🟢 So the real question is this... what structure do you have now, or want to consider using in the future, in order to keep yourself accountable and solidly on the path? A group program, community, coach, challenge, best friend, or anyone willing to hold your feet to the fire are all great ways to make that happen. 🥰
⛔⛔ You know a surefire way FAIL to achieve this level of mastery with any habit, no matter how small? Go forward without any sort of structure or accountability.😵
July 15, 2021
Resistance is the thing that we do to avoid being outside of our comfort zone.
We don't necessarily do it consciously.
Here's what Steven Pressfield says about it... "Resistance is an impartial force of nature, like gravity and the laws of thermodynamics. Resistance is clever. It knows if it personalizes its manifestations, it can deceive us and slip past our defenses."
There are 12 indicators - any of which can mean you're in resistance of something you say you really want. Some of them are pretty innocuous, even reasonable (doesn't everyone have no time, or forget?)
But don't kid yourself... if you're saying even just one of these to. yourself about something you really want in your life, you are in resistance with a capital "R".
🌺 Which one of the 12 is most prevalent for you?
🌺 What are you resisting?
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July 7, 2021
Who are you?
Where are you going?
Why are you going there?
Does it get any simpler than that? Simple, yes. Easy, no. But practicing answering these questions every day will lead you down a path to self-mastery and personal leadership that will elevate your game, inspire those around you, and create a new version of you that will transform your life.
❣️ 👉 So... how about it... Who are you? Where are you going? Why are you going there?
July 3, 2021
You want to be more productive?
Here's the truth... the latest and greatest app, system, or program won't help without something else in place. Trust me, I've tried them all.
It's not that a new system or app is bad or wrong or doesn't have a good idea for a new, fresh approach.
If you're suffering from a lack of success or productivity around getting the things done that you know need to be done, the solution is not "out there" somewhere. And the problem is also not out there somewhere.
The problem AND solution are both "inside of you".
You've got to want it, and be willing to use strength, discipline and focus to get it, to change it. No app in the world can make that happen... can they help, sure, but the bottom line is that it all comes down to one thing, YOU.
🤷 Can you relate?
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June 29, 2021
Remember what it was like to be a kid?
Everything was new... life was an adventure... and you were in it to explore, learn, be curious, all while having fun in the process.
Do have anything in your life today that feels that way? Because if you don't, the I would suggest that you're not "in the arena".
If you want to feel alive, you've got to get off the sidelines and get on the dance floor. Whether that means literally or otherwise. Find something that interests you, and get super curious... and whatever you do, let go of your need to 'already know' the answer before you begin. That spoils all the adventure, and fun!
🎢 🎢 What's something you're interested in trying that would invite curiosity and get you adventuring and exploring?
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June 27, 2021
This is my story about how I wound up getting the COVID vaccine on Sunday.
I was totally detached from the outcome.
Perhaps this way of thinking can help you in those areas of your life where you're stuck, feeling trapped, and not experiencing true freedom.
💫💫 Where might you experience more emotional freedom by letting go of the outcome?
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June 26, 2021
Had a revelation this morning. During my morning meditation in my Vitalize group(link in bio), I read "the thought of the day", upon which I pontificate during the guided part of the meditation.
The thought today was "if you aren't staying in the moment, you are leaving it." And, well... leaving the moment IS the point... not getting stuck in what is now the past by staying in the moment.
It's a little crazy, this talk about time, but I find it fascinating, deep, and a great path toward ultimately finding freedom.
🤔🤷♀️🤷♂️🤔 What do you think? Stay in the moment, or leave it?
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